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Diary of a sex addict
Well, as a recovering sex addict I'll tell you why, because I was addicted to
sex (oh, I can hear the PC girls now ringing the bell to alert the
troops!), but the reality for me was that I spent lots of $$ and travelled to
great places only to spend all my time at bars, baths, washrooms, etc. If this
is what you did at home, this is what you will do on holiday. There is nothing
wrong with sex, but from someone who has been there and back, endless sex
without intimacy, caring, real sharing of experience, etc.
is just like watching your life go down the shower drain. I'll never forget the
last day I had while in Santa Barbra, and I spent the whole day at the
University washrooms, just to emerge as the sun was setting, and I thought, you
know, you have a problem, and you have to do something about it.
Search for Sex addiction, SLAA, SCA, sexual compulsives anonymous, etc., on the
Net, and you'll find the help you need, if you're looking for help. And only
you'll know when its time to face up to yourself, if this is a problem
that you have. I think there is real irony in how many men I've talked to, one
on one, that tell me, "you know, what I'm really looking for is one special
person to be with, and love", and yet as a group, gay men say, "all we
want is sex, sex, and more sex!" Well, I've had sex with thousands of men,
and I was still alone, probably then, during all those encounters more than now!
All the best, yours in Gay Pride, David
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